It can be hard to find love, but it’s even harder when you work against yourself. There are at least five ways you self-sabotage, ways that can be explained. For example, a recent poll revealed that 73% of twenty-somethings believe in soul mates. Sweet, right? Wrong.
But the problem with soul mate relationships is that they never live up to the golden, glowing statue we’ve built in our heads. While couples are obviously capable of meeting and instantly having an intense connection, eventually problems are going to arise in the relationship, mostly because keeping intensity going for long periods of time is exhausting. It’s easy to think, “If we were truly soul mates, we wouldn’t have any problems at all. This person is obviously a product of Satan’s mocking design.” At that point, individuals who believe in soul mates are more likely to check out.
With this in mind, it should come as no surprise that people who believe in soul mates are statistically more likely to get divorced. The idea that you will “just know” when your soul mate shows up, or even that finding the perfect person is possible, means you might think there is no need to work at your relationship. If you are destined to be together, everything will just figure itself out, and if it doesn’t, all you need to do is leave and find your real soul mate. This is like throwing your toddler off of a cruise ship, and if he doesn’t make it back to shore, he was never destined to swim — but that’s OK, because you can always just hump up a new one.
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