It is time to ignore those hallow goals that aren’t working. Let’s take a serious look at where you are and how you can finally make changes that last for the better. (Please share this article below with someone who could use it. Thank you.)
Is what you’re doing working? Many of us spend time justifying things we know that aren’t working. They’ve already done the pros and cons checklist that tells them this is the wrong avenue. Following my divorce I wanted to make sure I avoided some of the same decisions I had previously made that left me emotionally decimated. One of the rules I incorporated was to ask myself, “Despite how I feel emotionally, is this person someone I’d want my son to date?”
If the life you have chosen has left you financially and emotionally depleted then you need to eliminate the relationship, the expenses and friends that you know are draining your reservoirs of happiness.
Are you living with a chip on shoulder? Living with rage gets us nowhere. “When it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you’re at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.” (http://www.apa.org)
Have you gotten too comfortable? I once stayed in a job far too long that I knew was simply a “safe” place to hide from my destiny. A comfort zone is merely stagnation.
People are often afraid to acknowledge they need to make a change because they are afraid to make it happen. So, if you are in a relationship that tears you down, you may be unwilling to change because it better than” being alone. You know deep down it is less than you deserve.
Putting up with less than you deserve because you don’t have the courage to make it happen isn’t really living at all.
You have the ability to live the life you deserve. JW