At the outset allow me to confess I am a man who watched “Runaway Bride” everyday for a month a few years ago …. alone. When I relate this story in seminars to make the following point, I am queried on my “Getting in touch with my feminine side.”
Psst’ my marriage had ended leaving me wanting to know what could I have known to have saved it. I know you’re wondering why does he lay himself bare? Well suffice it to say this isn’t a Facebook rant laced with melancholy self disclosure. I recognize integrity is admitting all of us are trying to make the best of life as we can. None of us have all the answers. We can, nevertheless , cull from ideas and our past what works best.
What is the simplest, surest, and most direct way of getting someone to do something? Trust. Yes it really is that simple. The world of work has changed. Testosterone latent management “techniques” may appear to work in some firms, however, Lehman Brothers collapse begs the question, “Could more earthly humanistic “feminine” qualities have helped?”
Mind you I speak in generalities here.
The following qualities, traditionally identified with women, produce results for leaders of both genders.
Empathy: Being sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of others.
Vulnerability: Owning up to one’s limitations and asking for help.
Humility: Seeking to serve others and to share credit.
Inclusiveness: Soliciting and listening to many voices.
Generosity: Being liberal with time, contacts, advice, and support.
Balance: Giving life, as well as work, its due.
Patience: Taking a long-term view.
Adapted from Inc.com.