“With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.” – Dr. Wayne W Dyer
There are those that don’t believe in coincidences or fortuitous findings — and sometimes I’m one of those naysayers. But, while I don’t always believe that things happen for a reason on their own, I do believe that things happen for a reason, because you allow them to do so. People vastly underestimate the power of their own cognitions. Instead of planting my wounded sandals in a graveyard next to a renegade guitar player near the fountain, I made the best of my situation. Had I not been looking up on that bench, both metaphorically and literally, I may never have noticed the boy from my wonder years. Sometimes, especially in New York City, what you release into the universe really does come back to you.
The power of positive thinking and the ability to re-frame negative thinking into optimism is a skill that takes methodical honing. It’s not easy to make mimosas from oranges at any given moment — sometimes you just want to call the orange what it is, a ball of layered mass that’s found on Florida driveways. But, I’ve found it’s easy to turn any day around with a few quick cognitive switches. The most egregious player in the negative armed forces just might be the aforementioned, “this would happen to me.” Replace “would” with “did.” This scenario did happen to you — but what can you do now? See what you can learn from this situation and what tools you can bring to future scenarios. […]
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