11 Things Someone Should Have Told You About Your Relationship

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Before you are cringing as to why I write such a things on this holy Valentines Day well, I was married for 30 years to my first kiss. Since my divorce and my subsequent living in my car I have become more realistic. Positive? Of course, but with both eyes open.

Steve Martin tells a story of his working at Knotts Berry Farm in California when his boss asked why he was depressed. He said, “My girlfriend dumped me.” His boos said, “Oh is that all? Son you’re gonna have a lot of that.”

Relationships kind of remind me of my first class as a college freshman. The instructor with degrees that could have pasted the wall looked as haggard as I discovered I would be one day. He said, “Now, most of you aren’t going to make it. The majority of you are going to fail. Don’t get to excited about becoming a senior because most of you won’t make it. Now, look at the person to your right. Now your left. In a few months they won’t be here or you won’t. The honeymoon won’t last.”

Boy was he right.  Any way here are some rules written by people  who might have a clue. Jim 

You do not always live happily ever after.

Sadly, high school relationships statistically only last long term 2% of the time. This is hard to understand when you are young and your hormones are making you dizzy and sick with love. No one and nothing else could ever get in the way of your love! Ever! No matter how wonderful a relationship might seem, if you are too young to know what you want, it might not last.

Guard your heart, but not too much.

Since your first relationship might not last, it is best to guard yourself, at least a little. At the same time, you need to be able to open up in order to have a romantic relationship. Try your best to find this balance.

You might get hurt.

This is part of life and almost to be expected. When you open yourself up to another person, vulnerability occurs. This creates a close connection between two people, but it can also leave you open for a world of hurt. It is up to you how much of your heart you will risk for the relationship. […]

via 11 Things You Wish You Knew Before Your First Relationship.


Jim Woods is president of The Jim Woods Group. A management consulting firm. Go here to see his work www.jimwoodsgroup.com. He advises and speaks to organizations large and small on how to increase top line growth in times of uncertainty and complexity. Some of his speaking and consulting clients include: U.S. Army, MITRE Corporation, Pitney Bowes, Whirlpool, and 3M. See more at his website www.jimwoodsgroup.com.

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