In 2003 the New Yorker magazine published an article entitled “A Letter from California” about the suicide capital of the world, the Golden Gate Bridge, in San Francisco. At that time the reported statistic was that someone leapt to their death from the bridge every two weeks. Among the most memorable features of the piece– indeed, it is easy for me to recall a decade later– is a passage about the small percentage of people who survive the jump from the bridge. The author asserts that instant regret is a common experience among those who jump to their deaths only to later survive. One young man, for example, was quoted as saying ” I instantly realized that everything in my life that I’d thought was unfixable was totally fixable— except for having just jumped.” This is a powerful testament to the idea that life is largely what we make of it and that our moment to moment perceptions can have a strong impact on our decisions, behavior and relationships.
Never is this more true than in the case of regret.
Regret happens when we feel we have “mis-lived.” That is, when we feel that we have made mistakes from which we cannot recover or which we cannot undo. All of us harbor some form of regret. Sometimes they are small, such as wishing you would have attended a dinner party. Other times they are large, such as wishing you had never invested in a certain company or gotten married. Recently, a hospice nurse in Australia cataloged the common regrets of the dying patients with whom she worked. The two top regrets are interesting and fundamentally relatable.
People generally wished they had had the courage to live a more authentic life.
They looked back on life and realized the many occasions in which they had capitulated to external pressure.
They wished they would have taken a few more opportunities to follow their own hearts.
The second regret on the list was “I wish I wouldn’t have worked so hard.”
In a world where success is often measured by what we do and how well we do it the blur between job and identity appears not to be fulfilling in the long-run. If deathbed wisdom is any guide than people would prefer, at least in retrospect, to have taken off a few more Fridays and spent a bit more time with friends and family.
When you think about your life you likely have regrets large and small.
Instead of dwelling on them here consider what you might do to avoid them in the first place.
Are you willing to take a sick or vacation day to spend time with those you care about?
Are you willing to take it a little easier at work this week?
Are you willing to say no to someone else or take the risk to pursue a private passion?
Take bold action now to avoid regret later. Read More via How to Avoid Regret! | Psychology Today.
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