Don’t Let Self-Doubt Get In Your Way

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By Jim Woods

Have you noticed how patient we are with everyone except our self? We become fond of “No one would want me.” A a Julia Roberts movie with Hugh Grant she plays an American actress in London. As he falls in love with her she confides her own insecurities hidden by the cameras. “I fear they will discover I can’t act at all.”  Please share. Thank you.

Depression, however subtle arouses our self doubt. There isn’t proof we are inept yet we persist on insteing we are less than others. We frequently maximize the talents of other as we consistently minimize our own. We pick our faults as though they are scabs. A wound slow to heal prodded continually by self loathing. This self loathing perhaps has it’s origin in childhood. Nevertheless, we can all change. On the road to Damascus Saul became Paul. Read below insights from Psychology Today:

Self-doubt can cause you to get in your own way. Doubt can lead you to get defensive, take command of the conversation rather than making it reciprocal, or cause you to appear overly confident through over self-promotion as you start listing out all the wonderful things that you have been up to. Doubt can also steer you to make an excuse to leave or slowly shrink to the sides of the room. In addition, doubt can lead you to freeze up right in the conversation as you get bogged down with the running commentary of negative thoughts, second-guessing, and self-criticism.

How do other people view that kind of behavior? In the first situation, people may view you as aggressive, cocky, narcissistic, or overly confident. Above all, definitely not the type of person they may want to get to know better. In the next two situations, others may interpret your behavior as being disinterested, disingenuous, bored, or perhaps looking for someone better to spend time with. Doubt is the enemy of effectiveness with others. The people around you don’t recognize that you are fighting off that nasty name you call yourself, like: not good enough, not smart enough, boring, unattractive, and unlikeable, to name a few. Instead people draw their own conclusions based on their own perceptions of their experiences with you. Doubt doesn’t let others see you in your most favorable or realistic light and leads to you being misunderstood.[…]

via Psychology Today.

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Jim Woods is president of The Jim Woods Group. A management consulting firm. Go here to see his work www.jimwoodsgroup.com. He advises and speaks to organizations large and small on how to increase top line growth in times of uncertainty and complexity. Some of his speaking and consulting clients include: U.S. Army, MITRE Corporation, Pitney Bowes, Whirlpool, and 3M. See more at his website www.jimwoodsgroup.com.

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