There is a remarkable scene in the Anthony Hopkins and Alec Baldwin movie “The Edge.” Stranded in the Alaskan wilderness. Charles, Anthony Hopkins explains why they have to want to live.
Charles Morse: You know, I once read an interesting book which said that, uh, most people lost in the wilds, they, they die of shame.
Charles Morse: Yeah, see, they die of shame. “What did I do wrong? How could I have gotten myself into this?” And so they sit there and they… die. Because they didn’t do the one thing that would save their lives.
Robert Green: And what is that, Charles?
Charles Morse: Thinking.
In real life we succmb to every day life quietly in the same way one gives up in the wilderness bearing the questions.
“What did I do wrong? How could I have gotten myself into this?”
Our self-image is what we have learned. Our behaviors, they way we were raised an especially our perceptions or identifiers. This creates a variety of mirrors reflecting our image. Every experience work, family, loved ones and daily influencers add to our image in the mirror.
We began to develop a self-image of who we are. Remember the carnival mirrors which changed as we neared them? Outside of the carnival we carry this distorted image with us into literally experience. We become adapt at masking it to some extent. However, the self we have internalized effect how we act. From whom we meet in relationships, reside or even choose to work. This self-image influences our choice of friends.
When one has a positive self-image one we recognize our assets and potentials. We realistically view our liabilities and limitations. With a negative self-image, we focus on our faults and weaknesses, distorting failure and imperfections.
We tend to maximize the accomplishments of others while minimizing our accomplishments. Thereby making ourselves smaller and smaller.
Ditch the Comparisons
I used to compare myself to other people all the time. We all have at some time or another. The challenge is, it is very difficult to build a feeling of love for the person that you see in the mirror if you are always trying to make that person be like someone else. It is a fact of the human population, that everyone has their good and their not so good attributes so comparing yourself to other people doesn’t allow you to make progress. Focus on your own great qualities and begin to improve upon the things that you are not so good at. The only person that you need to compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday.
Feel Great about the Way you look
I truly believe that happiness is an inside job. However, why not give your appearance a little boost by getting your favourite haircut? You could also upgrade your wardrobe to reflect the strong, happy, healthy, motivated and successful self-image that you now have. In my view this part of the process completes the package. Think how wonderful it will be when you look in the mirror and you love the type of person that you’re looking at and you love the fact that your appearance is a reflection of that.[…]