The 6 Reasons You Are Afraid To Change

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Have you ever known a person who despite your best efforts to motivate them in a new direction they refused to take your advice even when they knew it was in their best interest? That is the same reason you don’t change in the direction you know you must. Your “musts” have been pushed so far down the hill invisible and yet gnawing.

We don’t change because we are afraid to. Your friends who certainly could benefit from your guidance suffer from the same malady as you, “Someday.” Let’s be honest.

Every reason you give yourself for not being the man or woman you want to be, the owner of that company, the happy spouse or significant person, the great employee the better son or daughter is just an excuse. The excuses have become so rampant you have convinced yourself.

You have become comfortable in a life just like the Wizard of Oz. You have made it real based on your fears. Remember the Great and Powerful Oz was a small man himself afraid. Is that how you want to represent your life? Can you turn things around? I was inclined to say “live.” We both know traipsing through life with half-spent talent is no life at all. I’ll help you make it easier. Jim

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You don’t want to change.

Maybe you think you want to change something. But is it really your wish? Or is it the wish of your parents, boss, partner, friends or society?

If you don’t really want to make the change deep down then it will be very hard to go the distance. Yes, you can begin but if there is no inner drive to do it then you will lose motivation easily and feel like giving up all the time after a while.

What to do about it: Sit down and really think about whose goals you are working towards. If they are not yours the think about what you can do to stop working on them and spend more time on your own consciously chosen goals instead.

This is also why it is hard – if not impossible – to change someone else. So be careful about such wishes and hopes.

You don’t feel courageous enough.

Change can be scary. Doing things for the first time or stepping into the unknown can pretty frightening. You may feel like you need some courage to make those changes you want, to take those first steps.

What to do about it: Well, as Eleanor Roosevelt once said:

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”

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The 5 Things You Can Do To Overcome Procrastination

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Putting things off is a self-defeating behavior. We have convinced our self of the inferiority of our own abilities. We minimize our capabilities while maximizing those of others.

Ask yourself what is the worst thing that could happen if I followed through right now?

Overcome the anxiety associated with the act by beginning now. Theodore Roosevelt’s mother and wife died the same. As you can imagine he was dearly depressed. During this time he left the New York State Assembly for North Dakota.

As you encounter moments of self-doubt, which procrastination is, remember these words by Roosevelt.”When I did the thing I feared the fear disappeared.”

“It is only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth – and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up – that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had.” Elizabeth Kubler-Ross 

There are many ways to avoid success in life, but the most sure-fire just might be procrastination. Procrastinators sabotage themselves. They put obstacles in their own path. They actually choose paths that hurt their performance.

Why would people do that?  Neither one is a procrastinator, and both answered my many questions immediately.

  1. “Procrastination is suicide on the installment plan.” Author Unknown
  2. Procrastination is not a problem of time management or of planning. Procrastinators are not different in their ability to estimate time, although they are more optimistic than others. “Telling someone who procrastinates to buy a weekly planner is like telling someone with chronic depression to just cheer up,” insists Dr. Ferrari. Read More
  3. Procrastinators are made not born. Procrastination is learned in the family milieu, but not directly. It is one response to an authoritarian parenting style. Having a harsh, controlling father keeps children from developing the ability to regulate themselves, from internalizing their own intentions and then learning to act on them.
  4. “The really happy people are those who have broken the chains of procrastination, those who find satisfaction in doing the job at hand. They’re full of eagerness, zest, productivity. You can be, too.”Norman Vincent Peale
  5. There’s more than one flavor of procrastination. People procrastinate for different reasons. Dr. Ferrari identifies three basic types ofprocrastinators:
    • arousal types, or thrill-seekers, who wait to the last minute for the euphoric rush.
    • avoiders, who may be avoiding fear of failure or even fear of success, but in either case are very concerned with what others think of them; they would rather have others think they lack effort than ability.

Adapted from psychologytoday.com

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Wow! These Insanely Creative Resume Ideas Will Get You Noticed – #careers

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If you are looking or a job you know the competition is intense. No longer can you be lackadaisical in sending out the same boring cookie cutter resume scene hundreds of times before. When I owned a personal service I would receive hundreds of resumes for simple job where most people were vastly overqualified. I could never have the time to review all of them. I looked for something to stand out. I found a resume that stood out in design in color. She took a risk. That intrigued me. Someone unafraid to act on their ideas.  You want to drive attention and then give a compelling case on why you are suited to help the organization improve customer service, innovate their processes and achieve dominance in their niche.

There are imple tools available for free online to assist you in standing out. Here are tips you’ll find interesting from Goodo.com.

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17 Insanely Creative Resume Ideas That Will Put Your Template To Shame

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2. Storybook Resume created by Paula Del Mas

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3. Foldable Poster Resume created by Carole Pavoine

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How Successful People Save Their Way To Wealth

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Our comfort zone is an area where we are comfortable thinking and feeling. When it comes to wealth, your wealth, how do you feel? Uncomfortable? Overwhelmed?

To create lasting wealth one should consider the advice of discipline given by actor Alan Alda: “You have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you discover will be wonderful. What you’ll discover is yourself.” From Life Hacks:

Save a huge portion of your income

Again, we think that wealthy people are always splurging and spending on things. No, they are not. That is why they remain wealthy.

They always save a portion of their income. So save a large proportion of what you get. This will ensure that you do not run out of money at any point in time.

“Save one-third, live on one-third and give away one-third.” – Angelina Jolie

Make the most of sales and bargains

Just like us, the rich love to get the highest value of money. They always try to look for getting more value through finding great deals, bargains and discounts.

“Why should you pay more for something that someone else is paying less for?” – Sarah Michelle Gellar

via Wealthy People Save Money Like This.

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7 signs you’re working for a bad employer

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Originally published in Fortune

We asked people from all across the professional spectrum to give us the telltale signs of a bad employer. Here’s what they said.

Start date as immoveable object

Brenda Christensen, president of Stellar Public Relations in San Francisco, said that a new boss had promised to call her with the start date of a job in a new city, to give her time to relocate. However, he didn’t call until three days before he expected her to show up.

“He seemed quite perplexed that I couldn’t pull an ‘I Dream of Jeannie’ head boink or a Samantha nose-twitch and magically appear at his doorstep on that appointed day,” she said.

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Try These 6 Habits to Boost Your Confidence And Stop Negative Self Talk #success

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People with self confidence succeed more than those who don’t. Not only in business. In relationships as well. An elevated attitude is very different than narcissistic behaviors. William James  said, “It is one’s attitude at the beginning of a difficult undertaking which, more than anything else, will determine it’s successful outcome.” That is confidence.

Below there are also tips on dress. There is a marvelous book entitled “Dress for Success.” It is a classic. One of the things I have learned over the years from the book is dark colors demonstrate authority particularly blue. Moreover, wearing a jacket makes a hosts of differences. He or she wearing a jacket denotes authority.

Try these tips from Addicted 2 Success:

  • Do Something New Every Day – It’s completely normal to want to stay inside your comfort zone and stick to what you know. But stepping over the barrier that separates you from “where you are now” and “where you want to be”, is a crucial step to feeling more confident.
  • You don’t have to take up skydiving or make a drastic move to a different country to stretch your zone of comfort. There are many simple, every day steps you can take to build your confidence just the same.
  • Wear Confident Outfits – The way you dress has a huge impact on how you feel about yourself, and how others see you. If you wear clothes that are uncomfortable, restricting, or clearly too big for you, you won’t feel comfortable, and you won’t look confident.
  • On the other hand, if you wear outfits that mould your body comfortably, and you incorporate a splash of colour, you’ll naturally feel and look more confident. How do you create a confident outfit? There are two important elements you should focus on. First, darker colours convey more authority. Second, high-contrast colours make you stand out.[…]

Adapted from Addicted 2 Success.

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13 Proven Ways To Overcome Adversity

Former President Theodore Roosevelt had accomplished more at 26 than most people at 26. While serving in the New York State Assembly his wife and mother died the same day. This changed the trajectory of his life eventually leading him to become President of the United States.

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Said Haruki Murakami, “And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”

  1. “You’ll learn, as you get older, that rules are made to be broken. Be bold enough to live life on your terms, and never, ever apologize for it. Go against the grain, refuse to conform, take the road less traveled instead of the well-beaten path. Laugh in the face of adversity, and leap before you look. Dance as though EVERYBODY is watching. March to the beat of your own drummer. And stubbornly refuse to fit in.” Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass
  2.  “(I)f you do not believe that hearts can bloom suddenly bigger, and that love can open like a flower out of even the hardest places, then I am afraid that for you the road will be long and brown and barren, and you will have trouble finding the light. But if you do believe, then you already know all about magic.” ― Lauren Oliver
  3. “Well, if it can be thought, it can be done, a problem can be overcome” ― E.A. Bucchianeri, Brushstrokes of a Gadfly                       Having problems click here to apply now. 
  4.  “I am more than my scars.” ― Andrew Davidson, The Gargoyle
  5.  “When you encounter uncomfortable situations, you can either decide to be victim or an over-comer. Always choose to be an over-comer. Grace is within our reach to be an over-comer.” ― Lailah Gifty Akita
  6. We elect how we will accept defeat. Either it is an opportunity or a hindrance.
  7. Every event gently nudges us not as punishment but to move us to a better place.
  8. Pay attention to your thinking, and change it in areas where you cannot find peace. By doing so, you’ll bring more happiness into your life and to those around you. Looking for ways to turn your life around?
  9. Hard times can serve as a reminder that our relationships are a gift.
  10. Loss can remind us that life itself is a gift.
  11. See feelings of love as a guide to future relationships.
  12. What is misfortune for one is viewed as fortune to another. It is perception.
  13. Loss is a natural product of life.

We all encounter grief and loss. Even the most self efficacious. It is a part of life. Some adversity is the result of our failure to make better choices. Others are the natural courses of life.

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” ― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

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